Preparing for what is ahead when diagnosed with cancer is overwhelming because it is at a time when you will feel scared, helpless, and overwhelmed. The first step to preparation for what is ahead is building that trusting relationship with your doctor. No question is a dumb question so don't hesitate to talk to your doctor about the concerns you have and what is on your mind. Write down your questions ahead of time so when you are with your doctor you can remember to go over everything while you have your appointment. You may even want to ask your doctor if you can take notes or bring a tape recorder with you during your appointments. You will have a lot of information to go over and at a time when your mental clarity may be pushed due to trauma, so writing down questions or concerns in advance as you think of them will help you stay focused and being able to have a reference list after your appointments with answers is the best way to remember the important details. I also suggest building a relationship with your local health food store manager or staff as they can help guide you on healthy diets and extra nutrients that you will need to add to your diet. Be sure to discuss any supplements you are considering taking with your doctor.

Come to a realization that you will have days when you won't feel like doing anything. That is normal and also a signal that your body is trying to tell you that you need the extra rest. Learn to pay attention to what your body needs. Don't think that you have to do things alone. Ask a friend or loved one to go to appointments with you. Remember the old saying, "Two minds are better than one" and that extra emotional support they provide will ease some of the stress of the appointment and everything that you have to think about. Be sure to discuss with your doctor the side effects you are going to experience so you can better prepare yourself and you won't have any unexpected situations.

Now is the most important time to alleviate as much stress from your life as you can as you begin your treatments. Start setting up a plan for a healthy regimen of foods, exercise, and mental focus because that is as important as the types of treatments you decide to take. Take a look at your work load, what you normally do to help maintain your home and family, and the extra curricular activities that you participate in and start making a plan to cut back in your responsibilities in those areas. Asking for help from your co-workers, boss, family, and the people in your life should not make you feel guilty. Remember that you would lend a hand if they were going through the same thing.

Finding support groups where you can talk about your feelings and share information with other people who are going through a similar experience is an important preparation to help you through this life changing experience. Support groups are also available for the family members of people who have cancer. Contact your local American Cancer Society office in your phone book or ask your doctor or hospital staff for information on support programs they may have to offer.