Excuse Me!? Stupid things people say was a post on the cancer blog back in July. I wanted to keep this topic going. If anyone wants to comment about their experiences with hearing crazy, rude or funny comments after being diagnosed with cancer we would love to hear them.

The Young Survival Coalition has a message board on line that we use to discuss treatment, get understanding, talk about the challenges we face, vent and also laugh and make new friends. One of the girls on YSC started a discussion about stupid comments. Its all in fun remember. We know everyone means well!

Here are some things that the girls on YSC came up with and their responses...

• "You could step off the curb tomorrow and get hit by a bus" (not a good analogy, its like I already got hit by the bus and now its backing up over me)
• "You gotta think positively" (ok, I'm positive I had cancer, and I'm positive it wasn't fun)
• "You'll be fine"
• "So, your fine now right?"
• "My grandmom died of that"
• "nice fro"
• "God gives you what you can handle"
• "What's your prognosis"
• "Can I see what is going on under that hat?"
• "If anyone can beat it it's you"
• "If it's not your time, it's not your time" (then why bother with the surgery and treatment?)
• "Life is not fair" (thanks for the heads up)
• "Every cloud has a silver lining"
• "Its just a bump in the road" (living with a cancer diagnoses, losing your hair, getting chemo, radiation, gaining weight, having hot flashes, being depressed and anxious is not a bump in the road its a major mountain.)
• "Don't worry"
• "Your lucky you didn't lose weight on chemo"
• 'Remember Lance"
• "You gotta be like Lance"
• "Lance beat cancer"
• "Just look at Lance"
• "Just think, you're done" (done? I'm done?...I guess I'm done with cancer everyone. Nothing left to do. How about hormonal therapy, all the side effects, more boob surgery and worrying for the rest of my life about recurrence)
• "You look good bald"
• "So, was the cancer bad?" (no, I had the good kind)
• "This is a treatable disease"
• "You have a nice shaped head"
• "How do you know if it's working?" (I die, if it didn't work)
• "You know you can eat more curry, its supposed to kill cancer cells" (great tip, thanks)
• "You'll be fine, you have a great attitude" (If attitude really matters then why did I get cancer in the first place? Or does attitude only matter after you get cancer? right now my attitude about cancer is lousy. what does that mean?)
• "If you really want to live, you will. Just never give up. when people give up, they die"
• "Don't worry, your hair will grow back"

Thanks for the great comments to the girls on the Young Survival Coalition.