A new study shows that there is no empirical or statistical evidence proving that grief counseling is harmful to clients, contrary to common beliefs. The study was conducted by Dale G. Larson, PhD and William T. Hoyt, PhD.

A report from 2000 claimed that almost 50 percent of "normal grievers" deteriorate as a result of grief counseling. This report has frequently been cited in both scientific literature and the popular press.

Larson and Hoyt took another look at the data and found that the data on which this report was based have never been published, came from a dissertation that was never peer-reviewed, and utilized a statistical method from another student's dissertation that had also never been peer-reviewed. Larson and Hoyt conducted a peer review of the dissertations and reviewers were unanimous in their conclusion that the report is flawed.

Hoyt states, "It is disturbing that such radical claims, which contradict clinical experience and even common sense, could proliferate in journals, at conferences, and in national reports without anyone's ever acting on the basic scientific obligation to examine the data and analyses on which they were based."

According to Larson and Hoyt, the effects of grief counseling were positive, although smaller than those seen in other forms of counseling.

Last year, on July 14th, I took the day off work to get a tattoo of my dad's initials on my wrist. Today, on July 14th, I will make breakfast, go to the gym, try to get some work done and have dinner with my family. But the significance of the day won't be lost on me. It was 2 years ago today that I watched my dad take his final breath, losing his short battle with cancer. It's an awful thing to see -- watching someone wheezing, struggling to get air, then finally giving up -- and I had nightmares about that for so long, nightmares in which I was the one struggling to breathe. The last time I saw my dad alive, we were fighting -- he, trying to take off his oxygen mask because it was pinching his nose; I, forcing it back on, forcing him to breathe, for my sake more than his own. And when it was over, I thought my life was over. I was certain I would never laugh again.

I took grief counselling after my loss, and the counsellor told me that days like this would be hard -- these anniversaries of tragedy. And they are but on this particular day, I don't like to dwell. I'd rather celebrate the anniversary of his birth than the mourn the day of his death. But the memories are more fresh than usual.

If there's one thing I want to get across here, it's this: Fathers, mothers, husbands, wives -- take care of your health. You owe it to those who love you . Visit your doctor. Insist on taking the tests. Buy yourself that extra time with your family. Do it for them, the ones who will be left behind.

Writer Jeph Lobe has been working through the stages of grief in the most recent issues of Marvel Comics. You see, Captain America has been gunned down. And his buddies -- Wolverine, the Avengers, Iron Man, and Spider-Man -- are battling with denial, anger, bargaining, and depression. The whole story will be revealed when the latest issue, Fallen Son, hits newsstands July 5th, the day after Independence Day.

Loeb, also an executive producer for NBC's Heroes, chose his storyline to represent current politics.

"Part of it grew out of the fact that we are a country that's at war, we are being perceived differently in the world," he says. "He wears the flag and he is assassinated -- it's impossible not to have it at least be a metaphor for the complications of present day."

If there's one thing that I've learned about cancer, it's this: Life is too fragile to worry about the things we usually spend all our energy on, like deadlines, traffic, working late, making money and so on. Cancer isn't always a death sentence but it should always be a wake-up call. Whether it happens to you or someone close to you, it should always remind you of what's really important.

When my dad passed away, I went through the anger stage of grief being angry at him because although he knew he was dying and I didn't, he never once told me he loved me, even though we had about a dozen conversations during that time. I took grief counseling shortly after and my counselor said something simple but profound and definitely thought-provoking: sometimes the way we say I love you isn't through words.

Britney Spears, fresh out of rehab and back in the spotlight, is explaining why she publicly shaved her head back in February, following a rampage of bizarre behavior.

Think about this:

A friend of Spears says the pop star shaved her head as a tribute to her aunt who died from cancer. The pal states Spears was definitely suffering from postpartum depression at the time and the bold hair maneuver was an act of solidarity.

"Britney's aunt had just died of cancer," says this friend. "She was feeling very guilty because she hadn't been there with her, she was overwhelmingly depressed and she shaved her head in solidarity."

For 20 years, commentator Debra Jarvis has been dealing with cancer as a hospital chaplain. Last year, she herself was diagnosed with breast cancer. And she quickly discovered whenever she brought up the topic of her diagnosis, all people wanted to talk about was her hair.

Cancer is not about the hair, she says, but it's the first thing people seem to talk about.

"There goes the hair," one friend said to Jarvis just after her diagnosis. She was trying to be light and funny. Jarvis didn't find any humor in the comment -- but she did start to think about the whole preoccupation with hair, and she was able to make some sense of it all.

Cancer is really about death. People die from cancer all the time. But it's impolite to ask, are you going to lose your life? So people ask about the hair.

When we go bald, we are marked. Our bald head shoves death in the face of those around us. People really hate to think about dying, Jarvis says. So they don't ask, what's your prognosis? That would be too nosy and could lead to uncomfortable discussions. It's safer to ask about the hair.

Jarvis concludes that people focus on the hair because it's so hard to talk about fear and pain and grief. But if we can stand to talk about these issues, she says, then when we talk about the hair, it will really be about the hair.

Journalist Lynn Sherr is grieving the husband she lost to lymphoma in 1992. It's taken her many years to fully appreciate how his death affects her and while she once felt pressure from well-intentioned, clueless friends who urged her to move on, Sherr is now completely peaceful about her on-going, long-term grieving process. In fact, she fully plans on grieving -- for the man whose ashes still sit in her lingerie drawer -- for the rest of her life.

Sherr writes in her new memoir, Outside the Box, that it was during an interview with a pioneering psychiatrist about the agony of loss when she made her stunning revelation about grief. It's when she realized she would never fully recover from grief, that it is just fine to never fully recover.

Grieving individuals do not always follow the standard stages of denial, anger, and acceptance. Yet they often feel forced into these boxes by medical professionals, family, and friends who try to move them along and consider them abnormal if they don't get on with life in a set amount of time. But each person's pattern of grief is as unique as each person's pattern of love -- and stages and boxes just don't work. Sherr's breakthrough moment came at the exact moment she learned this.

"Bingo! I didn't have to follow anyone's pattern," she writes. "I didn't have to stop being sad. Not only was sadness okay, it was necessary. Nobody can tell you how to mourn. And it's not self-indulgent; it's not wallowing; it's hanging on to something important. We should not avoid bereavement. We should embrace it, welcoming our moments of sorrow as a time to reconnect with the person we've lost."

Sherr reconnects with her husband every chance she gets. He was her best friend, her deepest love, her soul mate, her pal. And she doesn't plan to move on -- ever -- from the sadness that keeps them connected.

Caroline Cheshire is the founder and online shop owner of Healing Baskets -- a place to find inspiring gifts for cancer patients and cancer caregivers. You can find cancer gifts for women, cancer gifts for men and flowers that don't compromise the immune system for cancer patients experiencing fragile immune systems as a result of cancer treatment. There are gifts for cancer caregivers including inspiration and how-to books, jewelry, music and one of my favorites, the Miracle Worker Mug.

Cheshire created her online business because of her own experiences facing life challenges. At one time, alone in a new town, with two daughters and six- week old twins, she was told she had thyroid cancer.

During the emotionally painful loss of miscarriage, Cheshire shares that while family and friends sent flowers, she sensed they were uncomfortable talking about her loss with her. Her intent with Healing Baskets is to provide a way for those who wish to reach out but might not know how to best do that, with a thoughtful gift of inspiration and encouragement. To view the gifts, visit Healing Baskets.

When Someone You Love Is Being Treated for Cancer is a book of tips and insight from caregivers for caregivers when it comes to the needs and issues of being a caregiver for a loved one diagnosed with cancer. Published online by The National Cancer Institute, the introduction states, "The purpose of this book is to focus on you and your needs."

In reviewing it, I found it to be a valuable and realistic resource for family members who find themselves in the role of caregiver because a loved one has been diagnosed with cancer.

Regaining focus after losing a loved one to cancer is a tough thing for anyone. Last month Professional golfer Tiger Woods missed his first ever cut in a major championship at the US Open following the loss of his father Earl Woods to prostate cancer on May 3. Tiger regained his focus one month later to win the British Open today.

Mourning for someone you have cared for and loved is a necessary part of feeling better again and continuing with your own life. You will often experience emotions of intense sadness and despair, or it may be hard to believe that the person has really died. You may feel that crying is a sign of weakness, or that you are falling apart but grieving is the way we begin to heal ourselves, just as an injury needs time to heal.

With an emotional breakdown of tears on the finishing hole, Tiger Woods wept openly in the arms of his caddy Steve Williams. This was his first victory since his father's death and some critics questioned whether Woods could regain the focus needed to stay on top of the rankings in the professional golf world. Watching the British Open on television and seeing the final shot by Tiger filled my eyes with tears to know the pain this man felt while winning such a glorious title in golf without the presence of the father that has stood by him his whole career. But he regained his stance at the top of the world rankings and keeps the focus that was taught to him by his father Earl Woods.

"After the last putt, I realized my dad's never going to see this again, and I wish he could have seen this one last time," Woods said at the trophy presentation. "He was out there today keeping me calm. I had a very calm feeling the entire week, especially today."

Tiger Woods now has three British Open titles, the same as Jack Nicklaus, and his victory at Hoylake carried another comparison. The first major Nicklaus won after his father died in 1970 also was the British Open.

In the second part of the two-part exclusive interview with ABC's Good Morning America Diane Sawyer, Sheryl Crow shares she is cancer-free and feeling great as a breast cancer survivor. The diagnosis of breast cancer came as a surprise as she is not a smoker and has no family history of the disease. She received enormous support from her family and friends during treatment, whom she refers to as "this incredible tribe of women." Before Dana Reeve died of lung cancer, she gave Crow advice on dealing with the emotional aspects of being a newly-diagnosed cancer patient and dealing with the recent separation from Lance Armstrong by telling her that the only way to go through grief was to grieve.

Crow talked about meditating and changing her diet. "I kind of went into a full-on Eskimo diet, where I ate a lot of salmon. In fact, I'm salmoned out of my brains ... and really green vegetables, just eating really clean, organic food. Listen, I haven't had a doughnut in I can't remember when."

Breast cancer forced Crow into an introspective place of self-realization in facing and overcoming fears -- and the wisdom that comes with that when she said she tried to at least address her fears and not be overcome by them. "The fear of things not always working out. You come to a point in your life where you realize it's not my job to prove to my parents or to my record label or to the world or to my lover that I matter. The fact is that you matter."

"It's not a good place to be concerned with always being right with everybody, always pleasing people, because ultimately you wind up betraying yourself a lot."

Crow shared that she sees her breast cancer diagnosis and being a cancer survivor as part of life's deepening experiences where obstacles are removed and opportunities come in.

Last Friday night, Crow joined the Dave Matthews Band in a concert at Fenway Park. But before she went onstage -- in part of giving back as a cancer survivor --  she made an unannounced surprise visit to Boston's Dana-Farber Cancer Institute to visit children with cancer at the Jimmy Fund Clinic.

MyCancerPlace is a new cancer community website where cancer patients can give and receive support, learn from the experiences of others, and share information. Modeled after the popular MySpace, MyCancerPlace is the first time this social technology has been used to create an online community  where members in their 50's, 60's, 70's and beyond -- whose lives have been touched by cancer -- can create a free web page with text and photos.

Michael Horwin, founder of Cancer Monthly, launched MyCancerPlace. The Horwin's motivation to create quality resources for the cancer community is a strong one. Michael and Rafaele Horwin's 2-year-old son Alexander died of brain cancer in 1999.

According to the Horwin's, "After doctors administered what they said was the best treatment available, and despite the risk of side effects including infection, heart damage, lung damage, deafness, infertility and a second cancer, just to name a few, we trusted the doctors when they said this was the best option. Alexander's cancer quickly spread through his entire body, and he died four months later. We were horrified and angry to later discover studies that showed the same chemotherapy had hastened the deaths of hundreds of other children the same age with the same brain cancer."

The Horwin's say had they found this research earlier, they would have made different treatment choices. MyCancerPlace is another resource for cancer patients to discover information and explore options in cancer treatments and survivorship, and to connect with others facing the same struggles with cancer.

Olivia Newton-John, breast cancer survivor, and strong advocate for raising breast cancer awareness, recently released a CD dedicated to anyone who has been touched by cancer.

The CD features performances by some of her closest friends including Delta Goodrem, Patti Labelle, Diahann Carroll and Amy Sky. One of the ten songs on the CD includes Can I Trust Your Arms, written by Olivia's daughter Chloe, as a special Christmas gift for her mother.

Olivia Newton-John shares her feelings about the CD by saying, "I believe the songs I have chosen reflect the many emotions of such a journey. By way of this CD I am grateful to be able to pass on that torch with these songs of inspiration, encouragement and understanding to all of those facing breast cancer or any other challenging journey." Part of the proceeds from Stronger than Before are going to help build a comprehensive cancer center to treat all cancers at the Austin Hospital in Melborne, Australia.

According to the Smiling Blue Skies Cancer Fund, cancer is the most frequent cause of death for dogs. More than 45 percent of all dogs will die from some form of cancer. Suzi Beber founded the Smiling Blue Skies Cancer Fund after the loss of her beloved friend and constant companion, Blues, a Canadian Champion golden retriever, who was lost to cancer five years ago. "He was the sun and moon and stars to us. He showed us how to live, love, laugh and learn." Blues assisted Beber when she became unable to walk without help as a result of a complication during surgery in 1993. In the short six years of his life, Blues was designated as a Canine Good Citizen -- certified by the Human/Animal Bond Association of Canada -- and he passed all of the requirements to become a St. John Ambulance Therapy Dog. Beber is convinced Blues was a healer, as he brought much comfort and joy to others.

The fourth Annual Smiling Blue Skies Walk for canine cancer will be June 11 at Bronte Creek Provincial Park in Oakville with a performance by Chris Cummings. All proceeds from the event will go to the University of Guelph, Ontario Veterinary College Pet Trust for canine cancer. For more information, visit the Smiling Blue Skies Cancer Fund.

On the homepage of the Smiling Blue Skies Cancer Fund it reads, "If hope were a medicine, then surely, love would be a cure." Yes.

The Starlight Starbright Children’s Foundation has honored Dakota Fanning with the 2006 Heart of Gold Award. The award was presented by Fanning’s friend and Dreamer co-star Elisabeth Shue, in the foundation's acknowledgment of Fanning's devotion and dedication to helping others. Starlight Starbright Children’s Foundation A Stellar Night award evening was hosted by actresses and Starlight Starbright supporters Jamie Lee Curtis and Teri Hatcher. Dakota Fanning is a beloved and phenomenally gifted child actress who has starred in a number of major films and it is not surprising she is also phenomenally compassionate and highly sensitive to the needs of others.

The Starlight Starbright Children's Foundation is making a difference in the lives of seriously ill children and their families with innovative and valuable programs such as PC Pals that provide laptop computers to pediatric patients loaded with a variety of entertaining and educational software and filtered Internet access that allows hospitalized kids to email and instant message their friends and family; Great Escapes which hosts ball games, picnics, cruises, spa days and movie premiers, allowing families time to connect with other families, make new friends, and spend family time together; Explorer Series CD-ROMs that helps seriously ill kids and teens a fun way to find out more about common medical procedures like IVs, Xrays, MRIs, CT Scans, Bone Marrow Aspirations and spinal Taps; and Coping with Chemo -- animated episodes and stories that help teens cope with the challenges of living with cancer -- including getting diagnosed, dealing with grief and isolation, telling friends, the side effects of treatment, making tough decisions and celebrating the last treatment. Coping with Chemo is free and available online.